Spiritual Relationships....A New Way to Engage.

The Greatest Gift: The Ultimate Relationship
   San Diego, February 7, 2004 — Abraham Hicks
                                   ( revised a tad by your's truly )
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Do you know the relationship we’re all really looking for? It’s the relationship we have with ourself.
When we meet someone who appreciates us, sees us, or makes us feel good—it feels powerful. But what’s really happening is that they are helping us reconnect with us. They’re activating something that already exists within us.
That feeling we’re desiring? It’s not coming from them. It’s coming from our connection to our own inner being — our True, Authentic, Sovereign Self.  Not the Co-Dependent or the Super Independent Self but the Inner-Dependent Self. So the relationship we’re truly seeking is the relationship between us and us. Everything else is simply a reflection or a catalyst for that connection. Isn’t that interesting? What we really want is to feel aligned with who we truly are—to feel clarity, confidence, peace, and well-being. But often, we place that responsibility on others.
We think:
“You need to make me feel good.”
“You need to be the reason I’m happy.”
“You need to change for me, for us.”
And that’s where things become heavy and laborious.

A Real FREAKIN' Drag.

Here’s the truth:
So let’s say we don’t have the relationship of our dreams right now, that’s not a problem—it’s actually an opportunity. It’s our chance to build the most important relationship first:
The one we have with ourself.  And when that connection is strong—when we feel good from within—then the kind of relationship we desire will naturally flow into our life.
But here’s the deeper realization:

The relationship we’ve been dreaming of…is actually our connection to our own inner being. That feeling of wholeness, clarity, and emotional well-being—that’s what we’ve been reaching for all along.
OUR WHOLE LIVES.
Yes, it’s wonderful to have someone who loves us, sees us, and appreciates us. That can feel beautiful. But real freedom comes when we no longer need someone else to feel whole.
When our wholeness is self generated and self maintained.

Imagine being able to say:
“I care deeply for you. But I don’t depend on you for my happiness.
My well-being comes from within me. You add to my joy—but you are not the source of it.” When we live this way, something powerful happens:  We take the pressure off the other person. We allow them to simply be who they are—without needing them to perform, fix, or fulfill us. And do you know what people deeply want? They want to be loved without pressure. They want to be accepted without expectations.
They want to feel free.
When someone knows that our happiness doesn’t depend on them, they can relax. And that’s when connection becomes light, natural, and enjoyable. Because the truth is—no one can consistently meet all of our emotional needs. That’s an impossible role to place on another human being. But when we are already connected to ourself…Then relationships become something entirely different.
They become a space for sharing, not needing.
For enjoying, not depending.
For dancing, not clinging.

And from this place…Love Becomes Effortless.

So the question becomes:
Can we allow ourselves to be the other persons dancing, playful and joyful mirror and just play to together in freedom and our own sovereign life? Being aligned in making our own independent decisions about how we want to live our life and what we want to create in it?  Joining together in decision, only if it feels right to us. Not defaulting back to the old programs of agenda making, strategizing for control and constant seeking of self validation though the other and the outside world of distractions.  Whether that be through over giving, seeking approval or affection or embracing our protectant, avoidance tendencies.

SPIRITUAL FRIENDSHIP
SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIP =
SPIRITUAL GROWTH and TRANSFORMATION


A WHOLE NEW WAY TO DO RELATIONSHIP with EVERYTHING.
IN A WHOLE NEW WORLD THAT WE HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE.
PEACE IN.

​Cynthia Spiece
YourVibeMatters.com 

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Books by Ester and Jerry Hicks:
Ask and It is Given
The Law of Attraction
Money and The Law of Attraction
The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent
The Astonishing Power of Emotions
The Vortex - Where the Law of Attraction Assembles all Co-Operative Relationships

Email me @ [email protected] if you want to learn how to create this for yourself.