A Tool to Maintain Alignment if You are an Overthinker or Overgiver.

The overanalyzing and overthinking in empaths / high sensitives / curious seekers can cause us to leak energy from our body and our field and have us feeling depleted in situations with people, places and situations.  As does the tendency to over give, causing us to NOT have interdependent relationships, but rather codependent relationships with the same.  Below I have written about the differences in these two types of relationships.
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It is imperative that we learn how to " become present " and " in the moment " with life.  Working on becoming our own walking meditation daily.  Not always thinking about the next thing that needs to be done,  said,  given,  rescued or solved. Otherwise overthinking and overanalyzing will be our default thinking mode and run our day. We are natural seekers and helpers, always asking questions, wondering, wanting to help, add to, figure out, go deeper with our thoughts and in our relationship with life and people. This can keep us in a state of perpetual " beta brain " ( alert, focused thinking state ).  When entertaining too much of this particular state, ( out of presence state ) we can go into overload which can create overwhelm.

In addition to the overload/overwhelm, we unknowingly can start picking up and adding to our own energy field, the thoughts, feels and impressions of people, places and events that are happening around us ( an empath /sensitive does this naturally ). This enmeshment takes us to a place that has us energetically and sometimes physically exhausted, which then knocks us out of alignment. Our peace,  presence,  patience,  and positive approach to life has now been replaced with denser energy thought forms and feels. This is also where addictions and obsessive-compulsive habits can enter the picture depending on the degree of overload. Also, it's where the fight, flight, freeze and fawning responses become more prevalent in us.  Either wanting to bitch, nag complain, argue, leave, shut down and isolate or just resort to people pleasing, as a way to soothe ( coping mechanism ) the unrest that is going on with-in us from the overload.  We just gotta numb ourselves out with our favorite addiction or offer an energetically contracted reaction, do we not ? No, we don't. 

By being in a more reactive state to people and situations, as opposed to holding a state of just being an observer we tend to forget that this sweet space is available to us.  A space or state of " being present in the moment " is the least harmful and stressful option. This sweet space allows us to  view life from a place of “ isn’t this interesting “ and not having a deep negative, emotional investment which usually sees us criticizing or judging or having a triggered response to whatever narrative that is playing itself out at the time.  It's how we will create peace within and in turn it will be created without.  In time. 

Practicing presence and living in the present moment is a skill that can be learned by us empaths/sensitives/seekers in order to be more fully in our  power, creativity and alignment. This skill ( if we choose to develop it ) will help us become more interdependent as we walk through all of our relationships with finances, career, family, friends, associates and things! We will move ourselves gradually, with a presence practice, into a brainwave state of alpha ( creative, relaxed and calm state ) . Life will then begin to really FLOW. 

You can truly be a walking meditation depending on your commitment to the practice of presence.  Eckart Tolle is one of the greatest teachers on becoming present. His YouTube video below is called FINDING CLARITY and may give you more understanding about what presence is and what it does for us.                                                                  

​I also attached a guided meditation underneath Eckart's video by Sarah Mclean,  an amazing meditation teacher, as well.  This one will actually take you into a state of presence.  Meditation starts about 10 min. in. FYI.

​This is my two cents for today. Enjoy and may you not be afraid to dive into a present moment practice.  Remember, everything will still get done and in an even better way than you can imagine . Truly.  It's not only powerful, it is magical, as you begin to watch the synchronicities appear. Presence will produce a flow in your life that will bring an experience of things getting accomplished in an effortless and easy way,  as you lessen the resistance to the minds constant cravings and daily gymnastics meet it loves to go to.  Try it and see and let me know how it goes! 

Some Definitions for You !
Interdependency vs Codependency
Codependency and interdependency are often confused, but they have distinct differences:

• Codependency
  An unhealthy relationship where one person is overly dependent on another, to the point of negatively impacting their own life.  Codependent relationships can involve control, manipulation, and a lack of personal boundaries and enmeshment between each person or thing. 
• Interdependency
  A healthy relationship where two people share roles and responsibilities without being overly dependent on each other.  Interdependent relationships involve mutual support, respect, and emotional growth. 

More about the differences between Interdependency and Codependency….
Link: https://www.twochairs.com/blog/codependency-vs-interdependency#:~:text=Codependency%3A%20Involves%20poor%20or%20nonexistent,for%20individual%20identities%20and%20autonomy.

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